Dear Graham Norton: 'Our whole family has been torn apart by rape'

Graham says: 'I'm so sorry this has happened' Credit: Getty

Dear Graham

Four years ago, my mother’s attitude to my in-laws deteriorated dramatically. I put pressure on her to tell me what the matter was and she eventually revealed that my father-in-law had raped her. A friend succeeded in getting her to go to the police after a year, but she let​ ​the case​ ​drop.

My initial reaction was one of stupefied shock, ​ but I​’m afraid I turned​ ​violent​ ​towards my father-in-law​ ​when they arrived for a visit (they live a long way from us). I was arrested and spent the night in a cell.​ ​My wife was also shocked by the revelations, and initially outraged by her father’s actions. But it only took him a few minutes to turn her against me. I think she secretly believes my mother but she is close to her parents.

I don’t have the money to move out – but neither can I see how we can overcome this as a couple. We have two young children. Divorce is not an option:...

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