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Dear Graham Norton: 'Does my son have to invite the step-siblings he hardly knows to his wedding?'

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Dear Graham Norton: 'Does my son have to invite the step-siblings he hardly knows to his wedding?' Credit: Andrew Crowley/Alamy

Dear Graham

I am very happily married – second time around – to a woman I absolutely adore. We do not have children together but both have them by our former partners.

My son is getting married this summer and cannot afford to invite my grown-up stepchildren, who he doesn’t know well, to the wedding breakfast, though he has invited them to the “party” bit in the evening.

My wife is furious and is threatening not to attend out of solidarity with her children. She says that even if she did attend she would be marginalised as I’ll be expected to sit with my ex-wife – I fear that, rightly or wrongly, she may also see my ex’s hand behind our son’s decision not to invite his step-siblings, as a ruse to isolate her.

I love my wife dearly and do not wish to upset her – but I desperately want her to be there. I have urged my son to reconsider, but money is tight for all of us. Can you please advise?...

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