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Dear Graham Norton: 'My relationship’s in the doldrums, and I’ve been flirting with an old friend online. Now we’re going to meet up…'

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Dear Graham Norton: 'My relationship’s in the doldrums, and I’ve been flirting with an old friend online. Now we’re going to meet up…' Credit: Andrew Crowley/mrned.org

Dear Graham


I have had a crush on an old acquaintance for many years. I met him through a friend when I was a teenager. We have become friends on Facebook, having fun conversations that are mildly but persistently flirty.

I’m due to go back to my home town, where he still lives, in a couple of months. The plan is that we meet up. The trouble is that I am in a long-term relationship which has not been going well recently –I think that’s partly why I have been messaging this other guy.

Now I am scared of what might happen. Should I go through with it? It might just be an innocent friend thing – nothing sexual happened between us in the past.

Louise, via email

'Either commit, or give the man you are with the opportunity to find true happiness with someone who actually wants to be with him', says Graham Credit: Andrew Crowley

Dear Louise

From your letter it seems as if you think your problem is not knowing how this old acquaintance feels about you. It isn’t. You need to be dealing with the relationship you are actually in before you begin speculating about...

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